Everyone has their own unique story. It’s their stage, their performance, their scenario, it’s their life. We love to give a lot of self importance. In fact it comes from having a huge ego. Feeling that we are all so powerful, we begin to think that other’s actions are meant for our pain or pleasure. If we engage in such narcissistic thoughts we truly are setting up ourselves for constant pain and irritation. This is a debilitating, self destructive process. What is truly sad is that we are engaging in the worst possible thing- mental speculation. This whirlwind and tumultuous self destructive habit will make us truly miserable. The human condition is to think the worse. Our default button is negative and to critique.
Let us assume since we like to do that well. Yes the person has a negative agenda towards us… What I want to ask is this truly our concern? This is their story, their conditioning, their issue, their hang up. They must work it through. Unless it directly affects you why mental speculate. If there is a problem then using mature, conflict resolution skills you can work it out. However this habit of thinking that someone ” has it out for me” is the worse possible thought pattern that one can engage in. Even if it seems that way- it certainly isn’t your story it’s theirs.
Let us assume since we like to do that well. Yes the person has a negative agenda towards us… What I want to ask is this truly our concern? This is their story, their conditioning, their issue, their hang up. They must work it through. Unless it directly affects you why mental speculate. If there is a problem then using mature, conflict resolution skills you can work it out. However this habit of thinking that someone ” has it out for me” is the worse possible thought pattern that one can engage in. Even if it seems that way- it certainly isn’t your story it’s theirs.
Julia Rambharose 